When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Stop pretending that they are what you want them to be and look at what their actions are. Their words are only valid, if their words and actions match. Choose their behavior over pretty words. Look for truth, honor and integrity. Kindness is also a good attribute to look for. Also, look for those who have an alignment with you and your journey. The others are on a different path and will find who and what they need for their journey.